RE: My Second Marriage is a Compensation from God

Emotionally bound and conscience trapped

It is common place that the best way to swing pendulums from one marriage to another and keep going with a broadly expressed smile that hides under the disguise of happiness is to become a Celeb. Going by the rate at which Nigerian socialites jump from one bed to another under the pretence of pursuit for happiness and someone to “love”, I can only but say that some role models are not worth having.

I want to quickly build on a role and pattern of a known actress in the emerging Western-Nigeria movie industry. She is someone we all know, and am sure several boarding (and wannabe) actors and actresses would have mirrored and patterned their lives and careers unto.

It is nothing but shame for a woman to like, admire, crush, fall in love and marry another woman’s husband; and a greater gross disgrace to not only admit the act but also to add that marriage the said man is a compensation from God after the first marriage failed. But the question the woman has failed to ask herself is; if this second marriage (which she claims is a compensation from God) fails and the need arises for her to shift to a third, will it still be a compensation from God?

And what example will she be making for her children to model by engaging in the act act and practice of husband snatching. The children might innocently agree with their mother now because she would only explain to them the perspective that makes the man not worthy to be their father, and hence the reason why he is worthy to be tagged ‘ex-husband’. No wonder mother earth differentiates a woman from a wife, and a wife from a mother.

And now, what do you call a man who for self gratifying and ego-centred reasons leaves his original wife with no prior notice or legal documents, requesting or seeking a divorce  to marry another woman. And the height of the annoyance, he claims 65 pastors told him to marry the voluptuously-endowed actress, that it was never his plans to do so. It was also confirmed by Bride Number 2 (Foluke Daramola) that Bride Number One has not been divorced. And she still went ahead to join the list is an imperative proof that she has a hand in the failed state of things between Bride Number One and her husband

There’s been several reactions and response to this modern-day sacrilege committed by both Foluke Daramola and Kayode Salako. I have  just three to give and that will be all for the mean time,

  1. Any man who leaves his first love and mother of his children for another woman does not deserve to be called a husband by the new woman or father by his children. He has by so doing said there is no law that bind one man to his wife and children i.e. you can walk-out any relationship when you are tired (when you are tired of fried rice, you can shift your curve to jollof rice)
  2. A man who walks out of his first marriage is capable of making the second wife miserable because his motives are egocentric. He does not care who is hurt so long as life goes on for him
  3. In life, there is a law described as The Law of Compensation (Karma). One of the law’s features states that ‘the treatment you met to others will be meted unto you, several times more.

I would have love us to also cross-examine another character in this conception of emotional-matrimonial-misplaced-priority, but I would leave hers till I very verify my claims and findings further.

Till then… This is my confession.

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Don’t marry a man that can not take care of your financial needs – Foluke Daramola

foluke daramola“If you marry any man who cannot take care of your financial burden, then what is the essence of marrying that person?”

The above statement was made recently by the highly endowed Nollywood actress, Foluke Daramola who recently got married to another woman’s husband, Kayode Salako.

People in the know, having heard such utterances coming from the mother of two, they criticised her and said she is not qualified to be a role model to the emerging generation.

She gave this as a warning, according to her, to the ladies out there who are yet to pick their spouse. ” Don’t marry a man that can not take care of your financial needs,” Foluke concluded.

Its so impeccable to know that we live in a time when so much caution is thrown to the wind and people no longer give a hoot about the effect from a wrongly passed message.

I really think our entertainment sector needs a body that would checkmate how so-called celebs pass messages.

‘My Husband Shot My Butt With A gun, But I Still Love Him’ – Wife

https://i2.wp.com/blog.logmycalls.com/Portals/155740/images/local%20marketing%20call%20tracking%20love.jpgThe story is that of a strange love, such that is uncommon. For anyone that heard of a man shooting his wife in the course of a  quarrel, the reaction would be that such an act should be punished.

But it sounds strange to hear that the woman would still profess love for such a person or even plead for him at the police station, despite sustaining injuries from the shot fired by the husband for whom she was carrying a second child.

That was the drama that played out between a couple recently at Apete community, Ibadan. The husband, Wasiu Waheed (35), reportedly had a quarrel with his wife and when he saw that he could not silence his wife’s caustic tongue, he decided to use a weapon that would have silenced the woman forever, save for providence. Continue reading

Christian school allegedly fires a pregnant woman on grounds of pre-marital sex

A woman from Carlifonia is suing a Christian school after her employer asked point-blank if she was pregnant, then fired her.

Teri James, 29, was unmarried when she was hired as a financial aid specialist at San Diego Christian College, according to her lawyer. The woman desperately needed a job, so she signed a contract and agreed to abide by the school’s moral codes, which include abstaining from premarital sex. She said she is humiliated by her dismissal — especially after the school offered her boyfriend a job.

The El Cajon, Calif. resident had been working at the college for two years. The woman signed the agreement before she became pregnant. James claims that the school knew that her boyfriend — whom she later married — had also engaged in premarital sex.

Her husband didn’t take the job. It was James who received the axe. She had to vacate the building right after the meeting with her supervisor.

“I had to go into the office with all of my co-workers and say I’m leaving,” James told NBC’s “Today.” “I never came back so I don’t know what my co-workers thought, but for me, it was humiliating. I felt like I was in trouble.”

High-profile women’s rights attorney Gloria Allred signed on to the case, filing a lawsuit in San Diego County’s superior court. Although the college has not yet commented, James’ termination letter states that the woman was fired for engaging in activity “that does not build up the college’s mission.”

In the college’s “community covenant,” employees and students agree to stay away from drugs, alcohol and tobacco. They are also required to abstain from “abusive anger, malice, jealousy, lust, sexually immoral behavior including premarital sex, adultery, pornography and homosexuality,” according to Allred’s statement.

“It does not say that you will be fired if you do not comply,” Allred told “Today.”

The lawyer said the college will argue that since it is a Christian organization, it has the right to fire James. But Allred will argue that the termination is illegal because the school is a business.

James, who identifies as a Christian, called the school’s actions “hurtful and un-Christ like.”

“I was unmarried, pregnant and they took away my livelihood,” James said in a statement. “San Diego Christian College did not show any mercy or grace towards me.”

SHOCKING: 8-Year-Old Boy Marries 61-Year-Old Woman (with 5 children and a husband)

boy-marries-61-year-old-womanAbout 100 people were witness to a most unusual (and certainly bizarre) wedding at the weekend.

The bride was 61 years old and the groom was an eight-year-old boy! Both families were present at the wedding of Sanele Masilela (8) and Helen Shabangu (61) and the bride’s husband and her five children were also at the wedding in Zimbabwe.

The boy’s aunt, Patience Masilela (46), explained why the wedding took place.

She said: “The boy was named after his late grandfather who never had a white wedding, so the ancestors told the boy to get married and he chose Helen to be his bride. The family took his desire to get married very seriously. They paid  for the bride in March last year and spent a lot on the wedding because they believed it was what the ancestors wanted.” Continue reading

“If a married man is the one that will make you happy, please go for it” – Lola Alao

Lola Alao

Lola who has been involved in a few controversies in the movie industry is quoted to have said some very shocking words to which she lays claims and non-denials to. In her own words, below is a candid advice from Lola Alao to all single girls and ladies and it reads this:

“Let me explain something to you; where are the single guys? They are there and not ready to marry.

If the single guys are not ready then the next available option should be taken. I believe one should go for whatever makes one happy. Continue reading

BIZZARE: Woman who stabs friend in the breast for bedding lover

Two women identified to be Blessing Nwosa and Aminat Kehinde threw decency to the wind and fought publicly in Ijora Badia area Lagos State, southwest Nigeria, over a lover – nawa ooo! It was gathered that Blessing was angry that her friend, Aminat slept with her lover called Kenny who she claimed was planning to marry her.

The fighting resulted in Blessing allegedly using a broken bottle to stab Aminat in the breast.

Her breast was badly injured and she was rushed to a private hospital where she is being treated.

The 27-year old Blessing was arrested and charged to Apapa Magistrate’s court for assault occasioning harm.

On the day the incident happened, Blessing allegedly ambushed Aminat along the Railway line at Ijora-Badia and engaged her in a fight. Continue reading

Ex-spinster now Mrs Nse Ikpe-Etime Sule

It was finally ode to the west wind when Nse Etim became one with Clifford Sule.

Nse Ikpe-Etim (right) and Clifford Sule (left)

Nse Ikpe-Etim (right) and Clifford Sule (left)

On Valentine’s Day – 14th February 2013, Nollywood superstar Nse Ikpe-Etim married her first love, Clifford Sule. Continue reading

PHOTO OF THE WEEK:

Bride with a bottle of Star Lager Beer

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JOKE OF THE DAY: “I KNEW IT”

Laff Wan Kill Me Die

Laff Wan Kill Me Die

A naija lady dat married a chinese guy werelucky 2 have a baby girl after 9 months of marriage.

But after 3months d baby died, and the mother of the Nigerian lady came to visit them,

But she was just shouting;

I knew it! i knew it!

I knew it! I knew it!

I knew it! I knew it!, And so on.

And then a man that noticed her shouting, nowcalled her outside and asked her wat she knew

And she replied; I knew that China product does not last!!!

Nawa ooo!!!

Chai!!!